10x Your New Year’s Resolution Game With Intentional Planning

10xby Bethany Nicole Smith

AKA — How to be happy and get sh*t done next year without losing your mind

We made it.

Here we are in December, looking forward to the New Year and all the promise that comes with it. This is the time of year when we get focused on our routines, and prepare to take on the new year armed with vision and a fist-full of resolutions.

And come February, most of those resolutions will have fallen by the wayside. It takes more than a New Year’s resolution to create change in our lives. It also takes willpower and intention. Continue reading…

It’s Time to Do Away With Antiquated School Uniform Biases

UniformBiasesv1by Kelsey Morgan

For many boys and girls attending any kind of public, private, or other type of schooling in their early years, designated uniforms were required. Whether that included slacks, skirts, blazers, ties, and so on, depended on the preferences of individual institutions, but across all parties, there seems to be a certain attitude toward young girls and the things they’re allowed to wear.

Sometimes a school doesn’t even have a specific uniform for their students to abide by, but instead, seemingly arbitrary “rules” for what’s appropriate and what’s not — and most of these rules seem to only apply to what girls are allowed to put on their bodies, as their male counterparts would never experience the same “issues” that they do. Continue reading…

Writing and Madness in a Time of Terror: a memoir (book excerpt)

WritingandMadnessby Afarin Majidi

It was October 2012 when the Homeland Security agent showed up on my porch with a team of policemen. The agent was gentle as he came closer, wearing a hesitant smile and holding out an official badge, but my heart immediately began racing.

I’d been smoking bong hits under a makeshift tent made of an umbrella I’d shrouded in a rainbow of yoga scarves that hung around me in the dilapidated school chair I’d found in the trash. During an oppressively hot summer, I refused to go inside and turn on the air conditioner because the vents were filling the house with a deadly gas no one but I could smell. Instead, I communed with the hummingbirds that hovered close because they carried messages from my dead half-sister, Nasrin. Continue reading…

What’s Really Behind the Whole Men-Ask-Women-Out-First Thing?

KateH_FeministWednesdayKate Harveston

Recently, I was watching an episode of Family Guy that touched on the topic of women asking men out. When the typical-teen-daughter character, Meg, asks her mother if it’s acceptable for her to make the first move and ask a guy out, her mother responds,

“Meg, are you asking me in this day and age, whether it’s appropriate for a girl to ask a boy out on a date? Of course it’s appropriate. It’s also sad and desperate and I would never do it, but you’re not me, are you sweetie?” Continue reading…

Powder Room Talk

gnameJennifer Gregory

I recently was introduced to the brilliant show, Broad City, by my father. (Of all people, one’s 69-year-old father isn’t the likely person to introduce you to a feminist comedy, but my dad is an ardent feminist.)

We watched an episode together and he asked, “Do women really talk that vulgar when they’re alone?”

My mind raced. What to tell my dad? Continue reading…

Looking Back on the Harmful Effects of Modesty Culture

KelseyMorgan_FeministWednesdayby Kelsey Morgan

This previous summer was the first time I didn’t worry about showing my bare shoulders, or wearing tights under a dress that was just a little too flirty despite the sweltering heat, or making sure my shirt was long enough that if I raised my arms, I didn’t accidentally reveal a tiny slip of my stomach.

It wasn’t because I lost a bunch of weight and suddenly wanted to show off more, it wasn’t because the temperatures were more excruciating than previous years, and it wasn’t because showing more skin was suddenly more fashionable. No, my newfound wardrobe liberation came after I finally, finally began doing away with the modesty-guilt I’d been taught, counselled on, had beat into me since the day I was born. Continue reading…

Dress Codes-Keeping Women in Check for Decades

JenniferGregory_DressCodeJennifer Gregory
Covington, Texas

I spoke today with a female relative, Sandra, born in 1949. She told me about being forced to kneel in the hallway as a student in high school, to prove her skirt was the appropriate length. She expressed the humiliation she felt as she was forced to kneel and a teacher determined whether her clothing was acceptable for her to remain in school.
I was born in 1972, 23 years after Sandra. Continue reading…

How sleeping apart can save your marriage

TheresaBrawnerby Theresa Brawner, diet.st

Sleeping in separate rooms is traditionally considered as one of the signs of a problem in marriage, but a new study has led to quite different conclusions. Namely, an increasing number of couples are deciding to sleep in separate rooms. It’s a practical decision, and some of the reasons for this are that your partner is snoring and watching TV and, and you want to have some rest. Continue reading…