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Part Fifteen: The Wedding
With Joanne’s investment on it’s way to the bank, Francesca and I kept focusing on creative and plugging away at our rough cut. Komal hired two girls, Diana Matthews and Kylie Kendall part-time to help us build out our strategy for distributing the film. Once the film was complete we would need a full-time team to handle coordination and sales with hosts. For the moment, Dream, Girl seemed to be on track to finish in a few months, and we could start planning our release.
I was really thankful we got lucky and the fundraising process wrapped up fairly easily because in the midst of making the movie and raising the funds we needed to finish it I was also “planning” a wedding. I’m going to use the term planning loosely here because if I’m being honest with you gals, I feel like I was a real dead-beat bride.
Sal and I decided to get married in my parent’s backyard in Buffalo which I was really excited about but was kind of annoying because we don’t actually live there. So planning really consisted of cold-calls, waiting on emails, and coordination that I didn’t have time for. It wasn’t like I could make in-person visits after work, so I had to schedule everything remotely. Thankfully my mom is a master party planner and really took the reins planning the wedding.
On July 18th Sal and I were married under a big oak tree under a giant white tent in my parents backyard. It was a really magical evening, and all night I felt an overflow of energy and love from all our friends and family.
After the wedding we took a week long honeymoon in St. Lucia. While on my honeymoon I think I was as unplugged as I could be. Our investment started to trickle in, and Komal was in a back and forth with our investors about the details of the agreements. Thankfully most of our hotels only got wi-fi in the lobby so I’d check my emails in the morning or evening and then be able to disconnect throughout the day.
Despite being on a remote and romantic island with the man I would spend the rest of my life with, I still had a business in motion and had to be on in some way. I remember Komal having an emotional breakdown when I was gone and having to find a hill near our bungalow that got service so I could call her and walk her through what she was going through.
I think it was the first time that I realized my life and my business had no more boundaries. As the creator of this thing, my obligation would always be to it. No matter what, honeymoon and all. Two years later I don’t think I’ve ever stepped away from the business for more than 24 hours. It’s like an extension of me that needs constant attention. I think that’s probably why so many people refer to their businesses as their baby. I don’t love this description but I guess it works.
In Dream, Girl Annie Wang says your partner is one of the “biggest determinants of your career” and I couldn’t agree more. If Sal didn’t support my job and my vision 100% none of this would work. His commitment to me and my dream is an invaluable part of my life, which is why I married him.
In our vows to each other we both said the same promise- to support each other and our ambitions no matter what. Through the highs and lows, we want to see the best version of ourselves rise and be part of that transformation. It might not always be the easiest journey, but it was the easiest decision to say yes to him.
Next time on a Gal’s Guide to Making a Movie. Part 16: The Executive Producers. Dream, Girl finally has a rough cut of the movie!
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